Bitch...Really?!

“Bitch,” seems to be the hot, new label that women are responding to gracefully and with all smiles! Nowadays, being referenced to as, “Bitch,” is the norm. Actually, it seems to be a greatest thing ever.

In fact, you know you’re down and you're the, "Shit," if your labeled a bitch, especially a, “Bad Bitch.”  The word, “Bitch,” is nothing more than an affectionate terminology used by sisters, best-friends, co-workers and even in the gay community, when referencing themselves or each other. Whether it’s during a conversation, in a song, in a movie or greeting a friend, many women (and some men) seem to have eagerly and with little reluctance adapted to this new identity. 

Adopting a word as one’s own identity or to tag a loved one with that five lettered word is a bit bewildering to me, especially when the history of the word derives from something demeaning to a woman. I would like to believe that I am looked at as a woman and not a four-legged, hairy, drooling animal. I mean, the last time I checked human beings were God’s most sacred and proud creation, but that aspect of morality seems to remain significant in a small number of lives. 

After lots of thought and consideration I have come to the conclusion that as women we need not to discriminate! We need to label all of the special women in our lives who we love, value and hold high regards to  as, “Bitch.”

So, the next conversation that you have with your grandmother, mother, daughter, aunt, mother-in-law and even boss, start it off by giving them a warm affectionate, “Hello BITCH!”

Picture Perfect 

Tahanee Roberts September1, 2013

Rene is a twenty-eight year -old female from Houston, Texas. Her live in boyfriend of six years, Omar had finally agreed to get a house with her with the exception of his name going on the deed and although Rene was the one who put the down payment and whose name is on the loan she figured, by getting a house together their rocky relationship would somehow work its way out and wouldn’t look so bad to her family and friends.

“Girl, you know me and Omar signed the deed to the house yesterday?” she flaunted on the phone to her best friend, Kim.

“That’s nice Rene. I’m really happy for you two!” Kim replied rolling her eyes in the back of her head. Just two weeks ago Rene called me complaining about how Omar was no help around the house and how she was fed up with his tired ass, Kim thought. 

“Yeah girl, he is definitely changing. He's always  telling me how much he loves me,” Rene continued, “I think he is going to pop the big question," she smiled. 

Kim pulled the phone away from her mouth and chuckled, “That’s good Rene!” Their relationship had become comical to her. 

“How in the hell did his black ass change within a matter of two weeks?" Kim gossiped to Sheeba; a mutual friend. 

"You know Rene! She's always putting up a facade," Sheeba replied.

"She was just talking about how she doesn’t trust him and how she think he's talking to  other females on social networks!" 

"I know what you mean girl. Rene is cool and all, but that girl doesn't know how dumb she makes herself look!” Sheeba laughed. 

Rene was the least bit worried about what others had to say, her theme was, “Actions speak louder than words!” She didn’t deny that she had complained about Omar to her family and friends on numerous occasions; because she did, but her words didn’t mean a damn thing as long as she was portraying something different. Those bitches can say whatever they want. I don’t see any of them buying houses with their man!  she thought. 

One night Omar decided to head out with his friends and promised  to return within a couple of hours. "See you in a few babe," he said,  kissing Rene on the cheek before closing the door behind him. Rene didn’t hear from Omar again until the next day; when he came strolling in at 6pm. "WHERE WERE YOU?" she shouted, as she stood in the living room with her hands on her hip. "Rene please," Omar replied, fanning his hand and walking into the bathroom to shower. Once again, Rene got on the phone and called Kim, "I'm telling you Kim, it's over! That man is going to really make me hurt him. He is so damn disrespectful!"  She shouted.

Later on that evening, Omar approached Rene with a card and a dozen roses. "I'm sorry baby, " he said, softly kissing her on the hand. After a two hour session of make-up sex Rene quickly got on the phone and called Kim, "Girl, he just bought me these beautiful roses! I really think he's trying to change; I'm just too hard on him!" After hanging up the phone with Kim, Rene grabbed her cell phone from her dresser and began to take several pictures of herself holding the roses and a picture of Omar as he lay in bed asleep in his boxers. She quickly posted the pictures on Instagram and Facebook with her headline reading, “Picture perfect…you bitches wish you lived my life!” 

NEXT TIME...THINK!

Rene made a huge mistake by signing that deed with Omar but that’s a different story in another chapter. Rene shouldn’t have gotten on the phone in the first place discussing what goes on between her and Omar.  It’s one thing to discuss a situation with a family member or friend but when you make discussing every incident you and your spouse encounter a weekly routine you are REALLY asking for your relationship to be magnified by others and in Rene’s case put on the panel for, “HOT,” topics amongst friends. Rene not only down played Omar and her relationship but most importantly she down played herself revealing her true feelings and how she perceives herself which is, “Not being worthy of receiving the love she deserves.”  If Rene felt different about herself than her actions would prove differently and the first step would be getting rid of Omar. Rene is in denial and chooses to ignore the fact that she is in an unhealthy relationship so instead she tries to paint a portrait where Omar’s good outweighs his bad however, that possibility is vivid for others to see because of what she has displayed about her relationship in the past.

Rene,  bragging and boasting about how good your man is to you, how happy you are and how much you two are in-love after he gives you a some bullshit roses and a hallmark card is NOT a reflection of a, “Perfect,” relationship, instead it’s a dead giveaway of how, “Unhappy,” your stupid ass really is! When you are with someone who is good for you and who you are 100% satisfied with then there is no need for you to: 1) Advertise it on social networks for his suspected flings, ex-girlfriends and your friends to see, 2) Tell your, family and friends on a, “Daily,” basis the status of your relationship and 3) Exaggerate stories about how he pampers you and smothers you with gifts. Take note of the above because you are REALLY playing yourself and not only are you displaying it to your friends, but your dumb ass went on Instagram and Facebook and revealed it to the world…BABY GIRL, AINT NO SUCH THING AS PICTURE PERFECT!!!